You haven’t texted her in a week.

But you’ve checked her Instagram fifteen times today.

That my friend is a problem.

Because every time you look, you’re opening the door to another emotional reaction.

She posts a picture looking great and you wonder who she’s trying to impress. She goes somewhere you don’t recognize and you start wondering who she’s with.

She doesn’t post anything and somehow you find a way to worry about that too.

You may not be contacting her, but mentally you’re still following her everywhere.

That’s why stepping back and taking some space matters.

As I talk about in Earn Her Back, space allows you to get clarity, and to assess the situation honestly.

Constantly checking her social media works against that.

You don’t have to make some dramatic announcement or turn unfollowing her into another message. You simply need to stop feeding the obsession.

Give your brain a chance to settle down. Give yourself a day where your mood isn’t determined by what appears on her page.

The goal isn’t to stop caring about her. It’s to create enough space that you can care about her without losing yourself in everything she’s doing.

That’s part of what Earn Her Back is about.

Because before you can seriously think about rebuilding a relationship, you need enough clarity to understand yourself, what went wrong, and what you need to change.

Earn Her Back can help you get to that place of clarity. Grab your copy now.